My BIL doesn't know much about his family, so I've been filling in the blanks. His grandmother was married four times and I'm not sure how close his Dad was to the half-siblings that came from those marriages, so I don't know if he knew this cousin, but: one of his cousins moved to CA to pursue an acting career. He was napping when an acquaintance doused his bed in gasoline and burned him "because he was gay and wanted to put him out of his misery." He didn't die right away, he ran onto his porch which is where he was found.
His family back in South Dakota didn't know he was gay until the story came out.